[*why it doesn’t work like we think it should]
I am a huge fan of Love Magick. I love the tools and ingredients associated with this form of spellcasting. I love the roses, the aventurine, the rose quartz, the pink/red/green/orange, Venus and the Moon, water and fire….I loved that part of the movie Practical Magic, where Gillian said that she couldn’t wait to fall in love. I’ve cast spells that have been met with amazing accuracy….a check list of qualities that have manifested in exact detail. I’ve casually read a spell from a book and had it manifest, without lighting any candles or burning any incense. It is the anticipation of what COULD happen that is so inspiring and the confirmation that something did happen, because of my desire.
I’ve come up with many theories about why Love Magick is valuable, why it has value in our arsenal of spellcraft tools. Most of these theories have come about because of my own personal self-exploration, usually within the context of my spiritual growth. Some of these theories are complete guesses, working hypothesis–some are still valid…some might be applicable at different times, in particular areas of my life.
I’m still not married. At the moment, I don’t have a regular boyfriend. Why have I not gotten frustrated with the whole idea of Love Magick after all those candles I’ve burned, all that incense I’ve set on fire, stones I’ve energized and angels/devas/gods I’ve called? Because of my context, my framework, my way of understanding the world, myself and the cosmos.
Being in love has nothing to do with another person.
Don’t get me wrong. I will manifest another love, another love interest, another relationship. But, the way that I have come to perceive physical reality is that our worldly interactions (physical, emotional and mental) are a reflection of what we carry inside of ourselves. What we carry inside of ourselves includes conscious and unconscious, present and deep-rooted past, thoughts, emotions, feelings, fears, hopes, wishes. Whatever shows up at our doorstep….however we immediately react to it…AND how we eventually respond to it are all found in our psyche. This is not blaming the victim…because we have a wealth of internal resources that we can draw on to react and respond in any way conceivable. Through reflection, meditation, self-growth and self-empowerment, we can learn how to respond in better and better ways to the same stimulus.
When we are born into this world, we come in with particular limitations….these are reflected as the scenario known as “home”, in whichever form we find it. False ideas are taken on–that, as spiritual beings, are only job is to expand beyond them and reclaim (remember) our spiritual nature….way beyond our human personality and human potential. As spirit, we are loved, loving and Love, Itself. One metaphysical theory is that we are constantly and intuitively trying to reaffirm that state of Love.
Because humans use the outside world to justify internal reaction, we “fall in” with the perfect partners….they reflect our negative perceptions and human obstacles, while at the same time maybe reflecting some of the hopes and wishes we have for eventually experiencing that state of pure Spiritual Love, that is our essence.
One of my theories was that people who tend to cast a lot of love spells are instinctively attempting to heal their emotional bodies. My theory is that these love magick-loving magicians are attempting to eventually flood their energy bodies with high-vibration essence to replace the illusory hurts that are taken on in a temporary human lifetime.
Part of the impetus to cast a love spell is the fantasy of what will happen once “true love”, a “soulmate” or “Prince/ss Charming” manifests. We justify touching on that Love/Satisfaction/Fulfillment energy that IS ALREADY INSIDE OF US, when we dwell on why we want to perform an act of love magick. On an energy, feeling or awareness level, we are already experiencing that state–without a physical form or event to justify feeling it.
We might make a list of which qualities we want to experience in the beloved or in our relationship with them. However, with EVERYTHING that we experience in this physical world, the thoughts and feelings that we associate with “love” and relationships will also manifest in some form with the love spell. Rather than become frustrated that our spell did not manifest completely (purely) in the form that we CONSCIOUSLY attempted, it is another wonderful opportunity to explore the flaws in our regular, everyday perception.
Magick is a way of making our unconscious conscious. A good magician understands that self-exploration is the key to personal evolution. Ultimately, it’s all about being Spirit, remembering and expressing real Spiritual being….not theories or philosophies. Magick makes thoughts and feelings concrete, good, bad, ugly and beautiful. Love magick generously allows us to see HOW MUCH BEAUTY WE CAN EXPRESS, while showing us the obstacles that we can eliminate to allow even more in.