The Energy Model and An Unusual Approach to Love Magick

This approach involves looking at energy in a slightly different way than what we are taught is standard, even in most modern metaphysical schools.  Rather than thinking of the point of manifestation as using energy, visualization and other magickal technique to manifest the physical experience of a romantic relationship, a sexual encounter or a specific person….we are looking at the internal reaction afterwards as the last event, the final manifestation of a scenario.

The manifestation of an object or event in the physical is not the final stage.  It is always the internal reaction of the manifestor/magician that is the true end result.  Once the car is made manifest in reality, the magician responds to the manifestation with positive and/or negative emotions.  Mental realizations come up as everything from a self-affirming “Ohmigosh, I did it.  I am a powerful magician.  The Universe loves me” to the negative “Holy crap.  How can I keep from losing this?  I can’t afford this.”

We change reality–we alter circumstances and conditions, move objects in and out of physical proximity–because we consciously strive to evoke a reaction and subconsciously want to bring our hidden thoughts and feelings to light.  In the perception of the more enlightened magician, all we are trying to do is transform our internal self.  Looking at reality in terms of eventually evoking internal reaction, we are simply trying to remind ourselves, giving ourselves triggers, to remember particular energies.

We are manipulating complicated life-structures to justify our personal perception of particular energies.  These energies are already and have always been in existence.  We are manipulating worldly form to justify the belief that we CAN perceive these energies in our mental and emotional bodies.

Using this model of reasoning, it can be seen that the desire to manifest a Love Relationship is the desire to manipulate enough material circumstance and events in a way which will culminate in manifesting those feelings that one’s psyche associates with being in a Love Relationship.

The frustration that the magician can feel before the Love Relationship is manifested (“not real, yet”) and/or the frustration that the magician can feel when they attempted to manifest the Love Relationship (and it didn’t happen or didn’t happen exactly as consciously requested) is….using the Energy Model of Magick….the justification of the false belief that the mage cannot access those particular “emotional” energies that one has associated with Love Relationships.

To make this more concrete, let us start with a common example.  Let us assume that one has associated feeling Adored with the experience of being in a Love Relationship.    Although, we can sense any and all energies, regardless of physical scenarios….let us work with this example to break down the idea that a seeming lack of the physical experience of a Love Relationship can prevent the mage from any desired internal experience.  Let us work with this concept of association more directly to defuse any of its previously-held power over us, especially on a more subconscious level.  Not everyone can jump to the idea that all happiness comes from self or The Universe.  Some of us still work with the association of feelings to material-world events and objects.

Rather than believing that I cannot possibly be Adored until I am in a Romantic Relationship, and until I am experiencing particular acts with or hearing particular dialog from my Beloved–I am questioning what I previously thought a Romantic Relationship held for me….that I could not experience without it.  With honest questioning and reflection, I have come up with a list of feelings and convictions (feeling loved, the ecstasy of good sex, feeling whole, being content, feeling cared for)….and among them is the feeling that I am adored by someone.

Now, that I am aware of what essences, concepts and energies that I have mentally hidden on the other side of successfully manifesting a material-world event….I am ready to work with these concepts on another level.  Using our target of feeling Adored, I can recognize that it is actually the internal experience of those particular feelings that I really want.  As a spiritual being, I fully recognize that I am able to sense any and all energies, including those of Adoration.  I can do a full ceremony, invoking a magick circle and calling elements or guardians.  If I choose to work with Adoration in an energy meditation, that is also acceptable.

I can sense Adoration as an essence or vibration of The Universe.  I can feel how far this energy extends.  If I want to, I can play with other associations–the color of the energy of Adoration…and other associations that can manifest from that energy (such as animal spirits, elemental associations, and so on).  I would free associate during the meditation itself, rather than research or plan ahead before the meditation.  These would ensure more personal triggers and possibly give further insight to other personal associations.

Do this for all of the energies associated with the manifestation of a Love Relationship.  Once all of the energies have been worked with, note which changes have been made internally and possibly, in the external.  Repeat this cycle of energy work.  See what happens.



How Much Power Does A Witch Really Have?

There are some people who believe that we absolutely create everything in our lives.  There are some people who believe that we have some input, some influence…but that we are subject to external factors–Fate, a Divine Plan, the free will of others.

In some schools of metaphysics, there is this idea that manifest reality is simply a reflection of the thoughts and feelings of the viewer–the one who is living their earthly life.  While the thoughts and feelings might not always be consciously held….but, because they are influenced by what we focus on….we can be said to have complete power to change them.  In this model, we hold absolute power.  The more that we grow into God/dess-identification, the more that we can influence the situations that spring up around us.

If we are growing into becoming living gods, the question that we always come back to is–“How can I influence this scenario?”  How much can I affect each and every situation that comes into my awareness?  How can I deepen my belief that I can transform this event?

If we do not believe that we are able to affect or heal every scenario…if we believe that we are subject to any external forces, at all….then we change the focus in our meditations.  How can we be at peace in the scenario at hand?  How much peace, love and healing am I allowed to bring with me to the event?  If there is a situation that we cannot heal or shape, then we bring as much comfort and as much ease, as we can carry.


How To Read A Magickal Text

There is a concept that I like to refer to as “Apprentice’s Luck”.  This occurs during the time when the budding Witch, sorcerer or mage is new to the crafts and arts of magick.  They are first discovering books, articles, lessons….maybe just joined a new group or are starting their apprenticeship with a new teacher.

When the magician is in the right state of consciousness, the entire world is full of possibilities….enchantments and power.  So many manifestations are happening, because the sorcerer is in that “honeymoon” stage where they are aware of how much CAN happen, so that it does.  It is only after the glamour wears off–after we intellectualize things–that we start to take in how many rules, laws and regulations are SUPPOSED to be in place….that the glitter fades and we stop manifesting as quickly or as exactly as we had been in the Apprentice stage.

Pay attention to your relationship to the information that you read in magickal books.  When you read about a magickal working–are you imagining the process in third person, as if you are observing someone else’s experience?  Are you visualizing your ability to successfully perform the working in the future, sometime–but, currently have the emotional experience that you are not able to successfully perform the manifestation, right now?

When reading about any and all magickal activities, put yourself completely into the sensory interpretation of the information.  Feel yourself performing every act, in first person, right now.  Every magickal activity is a description of what you can do, at this moment.  As you read the description, put yourself in the imaginary experience of performing it in the real world, feeling confidence or excitement that you always perform the act correctly.  Add to this experience that there are very real world results that manifest–feel them as a manifest reality.  Third, see and feel how the people around you respond to your magickal act manifesting in the world.

It is not about the amount of time you put into practice…or so-called “natural” talent.  It is about the shifts in belief and the deep-rooting of convictions that some things are more real than others.


Why I Still Love Love Magick….In Spite of All The Judgements, Criticism, Sneers and Bitchy Remarks

I still don’t have Prince Charming…but, my understanding of Love has changed and evolved over the years.  It might seem that I have become more cynical towards my fellow human…but, maybe I’m just actually more realistic.  I’ve given up on finding someone outside of myself to complete me, to fill in my missing pieces.  But, in doing so, I have become much more self-reliant.  I experience a larger degree of love, for much longer periods of time.  Lovers come and go, but Love Itself has become more of a constant.

Where do we get this idea of that perfect mate that is supposed to come in and fill us?  I didn’t get it from any of the real-life examples around me.  When I was growing up, my parents were not really a good match.  Nor did I see any of the other marriages or long term partnerships as reflecting any sort of storybook romance.  I didn’t see any real life demonstrations of soulmates, but something about the concept resonated within me.  From wherever I got the idea, I wanted that kind of partnership.

My current joke is that I blame Disney for giving me unrealistic expectations.  Disney and pretty much every other form of media that sells us that idea that someone else will come along and fix me emotionally, regardless of what I have on the table or what I am bringing into the relationship.  Metaphysically speaking, fairy tale romances and princely rescue are contradictory to the energetic rules of manifestation.  Someone who needs to be fixed or rescued is coming from the misperception that they are broken and cannot fix themselves.  (Not to pick on my Catholic upbringing, but I wonder if this is a variation of instant healing that Jesus was supposed to give me once I signed over my soul to him.  This might support the idea that we do not need to do anything to improve ourselves, other than wait for someone to magickally appear and do it for us.)

We can project for others to come into our lives and perform particular acts, including dialog….complimenting us, telling us how much they love us.  But, when we are so convinced that there is something fundamentally wrong with us–that we are damaged, unlovable, unlikable, unattractive, less than others in one way or another–that is our predominant energy and any other thoughtforms which are not of a similar nature will not be able to manifest or stay physically solid in our experience for very long.

Love is Love.  It’s an energy, an essence, a state of being or awareness.  It is not any act in the physical world.  It is not a compliment or an expression, in and of itself.  It is not any form.  We can channel Love into our personal awareness.  We can feel Love.  We can be aware of what it is, how it feels and how far it extends.  We can perform physical actions, expressions, and speak–all inspired from Love.  We can use triggers in the world to remind ourselves to feel Love.  We can attempt to provoke or trick others into feeling Love.

But, Love itself is a completely personal experience.  Completely individual.  When someone is in an unloving space–depressed, mourning, angry, despondent, stressed, tired, apathetic–they do not and cannot immediately resonate with that energy.  If their vibration is too far away from the vibration of Love, they will not be able to feel it.  Best bet is to try to provoke someone’s triggers (excuses, rationalizations) for feeling Love, so that they can work up their awareness to that again.  If our techniques for making someone feel loved worked, then we would have absolute control over someone else’s feelings.  Our loved ones would always be in a good mood, if we could help it.

Love doesn’t go anywhere.  It doesn’t come from anywhere.  We make up thoughts and reasons as to why we can feel it and why we cannot feel it.  We don’t work with Love directly.  We work with our personal obstacles in our awareness and allow ourselves to perceive this Universal Essence.

It doesn’t matter where the desire to feel Loved comes from.  My personal guess is that Love Itself is the essence of The Creator/Creatrix.  My personal opinion is that it is simply our natural state, our natural essence.  To want to be aware of that is simply to want to rest in our natural state.

To be human, experiencing a human lifetime on this earthly plane, we limit ourselves by hiding parts of our awareness from ourselves.  The Universe never changes–we change how much we can see at any time, what we want to be aware of.  Part of the earthly illusion is coming to false conclusions about causality and connection.  We still have the instinct to fully feel Love, but because we perceive that we are “cut off” to some degree from our Creator and the full self-experience of our personal spirits….we give causal powers to the people and the environments around ourselves, to “affect” our feelings.  In our faulty thinking, we take power away from our individual awareness and give power to the people that we have in our lives.

We often conclude that we can’t feel Love until a present, in-real-life person (or an imaginary person, who will show up in our lives at some undisclosed future time) performs certains acts–which can include anything and everything from spending time with us, giving us enough attention through specific acts, telling us very particular words (phrases or dialog) or making us cookies.

To make matters more complicated, people tie up a lot of other concepts with feeling Love, Itself.  The experience of Love is a meditative one, it is an awareness of the Energy of the Universe, Itself.  However, being as complicated as human personality is, we’ve attached other issues and ideas to this experience.  Some of us have made emotional healing equivalent to feeling loved.  Some of us have also combined sex with love in a way that we cannot feel loved until we are having sex or are with someone who would have sex with us.

The problem equating emotional wholeness with feeling loved is that there is an equal trap on all sides.  Someone who identifies as emotionally damaged is projecting their wounds and (eventual) negative expressions of those wounds as thoughtforms in their energy.   The only people who are attracted to these energies have similarly negative energies in their own energy bodies that they need to play out as well, in the forms of unhealthy relationships or interactions.  Wounded people and non-wounded people do not come together in a relationship, unless it is specifically a therapeutic one….client/patient and healer.

Best case scenario is that someone who comes in to rescue or heal a damaged personality will stay around only as long as they are able to rescue/heal.  Once the victim heals or does better, then the personal energies of the two persons are no longer compatible.  Rescuers need to rescue.  Healers need to heal.  The former rescuer will most likely leave since they cannot rescue or heal anymore.  The alternative to this will be that  their personal issues will then have that empty space to manifest in the place of the now-missing issues of the former victim–the rescuer will now take the place of the victim.

As far as equating Love with sex, this might be because of that state of Wholeness one can reach in a really good orgasm.  Even a meditative attitude towards the sex act can become a spiritual experience.  That higher awareness can be found within sex, as well as directly meditating on Love.  Complete immersion into Pleasure, abandon and leaving the mind behind are all meditative techniques.  Alternate pathways for raising awareness.  What we are not taught is that one does not need to be with another person at all in order to meditate on these same energies.  Pleasure, Abandon, Mindfulness and Meditation are all things that can be experienced in direct meditation.  Waiting for physical prompts (such as a lover is possible, but not mandatory.

Meditating and Identifying with the Universal State and Energies of Love is a more direct method of Self-Awakening.  Some metaphysicians believe that that is the point of existence, to remember our spiritual nature….the state of being Love, regardless of any and all physical circumstances.  Not all of us are in the mental space where we can meditate on the essence of awakening.  Some of us are still in the state of understanding, the belief that we must come to these happinesses and higher states only through physical experience and through the physical interaction with others.

Rather than wait until we can come to that awareness that it is the essence of the experience of Love that we want, not a particular person….in my opinion, it is more productive to move forward, even if we are stumbling.  Healing and Self-Awareness come on winding pathways.

According to some metaphysical interpretations, we have the driving instinct to experience this perfect state of being Loved.   Many of us do whatever we think we have to do, within the limitations of our personal ethical and social restraints, to feel loved by someone else.  Mixed in with that, we also naturally become attracted to those negative experiences which we associate with Love relationships.  In those negative relationships, we have the opportunity to work out those issues and negative repeating patterns that prevent us from having a satisfying experience.

Keeping these concepts in mind, I would advise the magician to throw themselves completely into any sort of Love Magick that they feel attracted to–with some conditions.  Question and mentally explore the internal motivations and possible outcomes of all desires, first and foremost.  Use every motivation, desire and intention to move forward in emotional healing.  If there is still a strong desire to work out issues through or with another person–cast any spell that you are drawn to.  One theory is that spells involving other people only manifest if all parties’ guardian spirits and guiding consciousness see benefit from the physical or energetic manifestation of the spell.

An important factor to be aware of is that in the manifest universe, there is always opportunity for expansion of consciousness and self-empowerment in any situation.  Furthermore, any spell can only take root in one’s personal reality if they have enough compatible energy for that spell to seed in.  A curse will not affect a target who is at a very high, positive vibration…..just as a blessing will not affect someone who is at a very low, negative level of vibration.  Any spell of Influence can only work if there is something compatible within the recipient.  Spells do not always work, especially when there is no supporting energy in the situation.

Even if love spells do not manifest at all in changes in the physical world, it is excellent to gauge one’s personal obstacles to get insight into which energies one is actually immersed in–are they too negative?  What caused you to want to perform the spell and what is your reaction to it working or not working?  What is your relationship to the energies of Love, Joy, Pleasure and Expansion, in and of Themselves?  Are they something that you can relate to experiencing, right now?  The end results are how we are transformed as individuals–our personal, internal experience.


In Favor of Reckless Sorcery, The Positive Aspects of Negativity and Conjuring Things Bigger Than Your Breadbox

  • When I first started to formally study witchcraft, I was mostly excited about all of the positive changes that I was going to make. It was all about empowerment. It was all about healing. I couldn’t wait to get started.


    I had a lot of personal chaos to deal with–including, an anxiety disorder that was out of control.  I was surrounded by unhappy, aggressive people. Everything was miserable. I wanted to jump right in and move things around….something, anything. I was already in hell. Any change would have been amazing.  I started off with the basic practices of grounding, circle casting and calling in the elements. While I started with the energy basics, I was also studying the standard principles of energy manipulation, karma and the various standard philosophies found within metaphysical and witchcraft teachings.


    While I was already practicing, I had every intention of also taking the scholarly route. I equated acquiring book knowledge with becoming wise.

    In the Magickal Community, we emphasize the need to seriously study before we practice. We tell our new magicians….even each other…that we shouldn’t attempt particular feats, not practice until we are practicing regularly…along with a laundry list of other prohibitions, rules and regulations.

    These are all wonderful ideals, with the underlying intention of keeping everyone safe.

    However, there are important factors to keep in mind when we discuss any concept in the magickal or metaphysical world. Not all magicians agree on the same interpretation of reality. How reality works also includes how powerful you are (and think you are) in your personal world–are you responsible for what happens to you in your life or to which degree are you simply a victim of the negative?

     We differ on basic frameworks such as these. We cannot assume that everyone else who practices or discusses magick interprets their experience in the same exact way.

    That being said, I tend to favor the psychological model of magick. It makes more sense to me that everything and every event has a corresponding internal meaning….therefore, one can interpret the outside world as being a projection of sorts of the personally internal world. Not that there is always a direct correspondence, but it is more equivalent to some objects and circumstances being in place because an internal condition allowed it be so, at the very least.

    No one deserves negative circumstances, but general ideas, attitudes and fears make the ground fertile for such things to creep in. These are also not necessarily desired consciously, but agreed upon subconsciously….accepted as “that’s the way it is” or through similar ideas along those lines.

    I was born into a family that had a lot of negative energy. This energy manifested constantly into negative circumstances. Naturally, I grew up feeling very disempowered and believing that these situations were normal, on some level. By the time I became aware of the art of magick, I was already so negative about my self-perception and what I expected the world to be like….that there was no way that I was going to have completely positive manifestations.

    There is no way that all of your magick is not going to be colored by your emotional waters.  What is inside of you is going to tint and taint what you ask for.


    And, by all means, go for it.

    My reasoning is that Magick is not anything different than what we do all day, every day, anyway. Being in the physical universe, we are manifestors. It’s the nature of this world. We have thoughts. We have feelings. We think. We feel. According to one particular model of reality, those things are what are projected out into….as….physical reality.

    Performing a magickal act….ritual, ceremony, spellwork, prayer, petition, even wishing….is just a concentrated, conscious version of what we do all day, anyway. Just because someone does not consciously study the philosophies of magick or any new age material does not mean that they are exempt from the mechanics of the universe.

    By this observation, people are already reckless with their thoughts and feelings, in the world. People manifest all manners of monsters and chaos, as it is. I am not advocating bringing more disorder into the world. In the bigger picture, I simply see more benefits to conjuring “where you are at” than not.

    Start where you are, even if it is the most ugly, disorganized place that there can be. Magick just allows us to be aware of what it is that we are already doing. Dabble, screw up, be bad….but, pay attention. Do not replay other people’s warnings. Pay attention to what is going through your heart and mind BEFORE you cast that spell. Pay attention to what you are thinking and feeling DURING the ritual, even as you try to concentrate. Pay attention to which thoughts and emotions come up AFTER your ceremony….for DAYS after.

    According to the psychological model of reality, it’s all about what is inside of you. If you are really so chaotic….get your therapy, read your self help books and pay attention to what manifests in your life situations….whether those manifestations come from a consciously cast spell, a casual wish or just daily thoughts and emotions.

    Perhaps one way of looking at this physical plane is that we are here to let go of anything which keeps us from direct experience of The Divine Spirit.  Maybe some of us are here to work out our Purgatory….get all the negativity out of our systems, so that we can be free of it.  Be as positive as you can to the capacity to which you are able.  But, when you can’t get around the negativity, meet it head on….with the intention of eventually understanding it….so that you can let it go, even if that means just getting tired of it.


Love Magick: Chaos, Truth and Other Stuff

  • Love magick is probably one of the messiest areas of magick that we have. There are so many warnings and guidelines for performing love magick. There are so many disappointments that come from spells that didn’t manifest correctly, as directed or exactly how we petitioned. In a nutshell, the magick is only reflecting the personal relationships that we have with the energies of Love, Sex, Deserving and Receiving that we all carry with us in the world. The biggest misconception is that Love Magick is manifesting a particular person who will behave in particular ways.  Love Magick is activating personal experience of particular sensations and interior experiences. Love Magick is never the problem. We already had all of the problems that we associated with Love and Sex before we started consciously focusing and asking for any manifestation, in any form of structured petition.

    The principle theory in magick is that we physically experience the events that match up with the expectations, beliefs and energies that we carry within ourselves in the forms of thoughts and feelings.

    If we experienced the emotions and concepts associated with a loving relationship, we would already have a loving relationship manifest in the physical world around us. It is one thing to want or desire such a relationship. The magickal idea is to experience everything associated with it on a mental and emotional level….completely internal….REGARDLESS (and before) of what is happening in the material world.

    Despite all excuses, reasons and justifications–this is how magick works. Magickal workings are just a conscious application of the principles that describe how personal reality already works. Even if someone never studied magick, under the metaphysical principles, they are still manifesting their world….albeit non-consciously.

    Rather than just shooting for manifesting a physical relationship–set up a Love Altar to experience the different energies that come in a love relationship. Focus on essence before form.  Consider this the preliminary work before the manifestation of a physical form or situation.

    Create an altar working with the imagery and symbols of Venus, the Heart Chakra or anything else that you associate with Love energies. Steer away from images of people. You are focusing on the energies to begin with. Any stones, symbols, tools are completely acceptable as long as they bring a personal association with the energies of Love, in some form.

    To begin, make a list of all of the general concepts that are associated with being in a loving relationship. This is personal. There are no right or wrong answers.

    Perhaps, keep in mind that when we fantasize about our ideal relationships, we often use them as a catch-all for all of the other relationships that are possible to experience in Life….we look for experience of Divine Love, Sexual Satisfaction, Acceptance, Validation, Comfort, Peace, Fulfillment….even if something doesn’t seem logical to you, put it down–work with it, anyway.

    Once you have your list, perhaps make some flashcards or notecards, with each concept on its own. This will make it easier for meditation and focus. Taking for example, Divine Love–place the notecard in a prominent place. Somewhere that you will be able to bring your attention back to the term, in case you lose your concentration. If you would like, add any objects to your altar that can represent Divine Love for your meditation. The practical work is that you are going to play with the intensity to which and the length of time that you can feel Divine Love–not only during formal meditation time, but also throughout the normal day.

    The attitude during meditation/energy work is not to feel like you are clocking in practice hours. The idea is to see how fully you can experience these energies with all of your senses, to the limitations of your senses….and beyond…over time. Coming back to our example, cast circle or prepare the space in any way which feels appropriate.

    Allow yourself to center and breathe deeply. Become aware that Divine Love is omnipresent. Your experience of this energy is dependent on your mental acceptance of any sensory experience that corresponds to this concept. Which correspondences confirm the conviction you feel Divine Love? What does your body feel like when you are Divinely Loved? Which sensations are in your physical form? Which feeling-sensations are in each one of your chakras?–go through each one. What does each chakra feel like when you are Divinely Loved? Go through all of the energy bodies, depending on the system that makes sense to you–Emotional, Mental or more. Feel whichever sensations correspond to you knowing that you are Divinely Loved. What is your mental dialog when you know that you are Divinely Loved? What passes through your head? Which interactions do you have in the world? Which conversations and interactions do you have with others, when you know that you are Divinely Loved? How do you carry yourself? How do you project yourself in the world?

    Go through each of the other qualities on your list. Take note of which changes, internal and worldly, that take place as you continue this exercise.


The Metaphysical and Spiritual Understanding of Extramarital Affairs


    In the bigger picture, we are complete Spiritual Beings. We are made up of the same substance as is The Divine. There is nothing missing from us. We are all that God/Goddess/Universe is. We cannot be added to, because we are All That Is.

    We are human, because we have temporarily hidden parts of our awareness from our conscious minds. Spirit is Omniscient, Omnipresent and Omnipotent. Being human, we work through the limitations of a human mind and human emotions. Until we relate to being the Fullness of the Universe once more, by default, we find ourselves in human situations and worldly scenarios. Rather than allow our miseries to overwhelm us, it might be interesting to look at our situations in a different way.

    As humans, we are so ready to justify our negativity and limitations, under the guise of some sort of “lesson”. If the bottom line is that our True Nature is Love and Completeness, how is any situation based on feeling limited any sort of lesson? Our minds were not meant to take huge quantum leaps in awareness. As a theory, it can be a nice idea, but it might be counterproductive to “believe” in huge leaps. The human personality finds lasting changes in smaller steps. Creating long-term, lasting changes in belief comes from making smaller adjustments, rather than attempting drastic changes. I would like to propose that there are not so much lessons in worldly scenarios–based on personal shortcomings–as much as the Truth of the “lesson” is that we have the opportunity to realize our Complete/Spiritual nature in every life situation.

    As humans, we find ourselves in a variety of life situations. We find ourselves embroiled in all sorts of negativity. While being part of an Infidelity Triangle is not the only or most extreme scenario that some of us find ourselves in….it is one of the many situations of life that we can use to propel our self-evolution.

    We find ourselves in our particular life scenarios, with all of their specific details, for basically two reasons–the manifestations match the attitudes, thoughts and feelings that we have been carrying….or we can use those particular details of a life situation to push against and spiritually blossom in the process.


    Metaphysics and spirituality have their own sets of foundation beliefs.  No one is obligated to believe that we create our lives through our personal energies, even if only by default. No one is obligated to accept that we can take our life situations as springboards for personal growth, rather than remaining in one’s current emotional state.  Complaining about our current negative situations has not worked and we keep finding ourselves in similar scenarios, generation after generation. It does not work to just say that particular situations are bad and that we should not be in them.

    As adults, we find ourselves in undesirable and less-than-desirable circumstances. Some circumstances are so common, they are almost their own norm. Perhaps looking at them from a metaphysical angle and working with them through metaphysical techniques might make some sort of change in the individual. As an adult, placing responsibility on any other adult for one’s feelings has not made any sense. One adult blaming another for their feelings is never nearly as healing as taking responsibility for one’s own happiness.  As metaphysicians, each person can empower themselves to be more comfortable in or leave the situation as they see fit.

    It is possible to be in an open or polygamous relationship. When everything is out in the open between consenting adults, the types of negativity are very different.  This is not always the case.  Instead of denying the occurrence of an Infidelity Triangle, let us meet it head on as conscious beings, when it does occur.

    In an Infidelity Triangle, there are three possible positions. For purposes of keeping the positions clear, we will refer to them as The Other Partner, The Lover and The Spouse. For purposes of being constructive, we will avoid terms like “cheating” because such terminology brings the reader back to judgement and disempowers the reader from making any constructive changes in their participation and personal perspective.

    Regardless of gender, The Other Partner is the participant outside of the main relationship or marriage. The Other Partner participates in the extramarital affair with The Lover. (The Lover is the one that is married or principally involved with The Spouse, as their main relationship.) The Other Partner might get involved in the extramarital affair for a multitude of reasons–positive and negative. For purposes of self growth and healing, we will not focus on the positive so much, but instead focus on correcting the negative reasons.

       The negative aspects of being The Other Partner could come from being unable to be a part of a monogamous relationship, where one is the only focus of The Lover. The metaphysical remedy could be to cultivate more self worth. The default settings in one’s psyche could be that one never assumed that one would be the most desirable in a lover’s life. It might have never occurred to one that they would be enough to satisfy a romantic interest or life partner, completely. Prepare meditation space by cleansing space and casting a circle. Do everything else appropriate, as feels correct. In your meditation, perceive yourself as the most attractive creature that you can. Do not worry about physical appearance–focus on having the most attractive energy that you can.

        Be very aware of the energy that emanates from you. Without forming any solid imagery of any particular people–be aware of how your energy is extremely attractive to others. Be aware of the feelings of other partners reacting favorably to your energy in ways that make them want to devote themselves to you.  Take the time to muse on positive qualities that others perceive and enjoy within you.  Repeat this exercise, often.

       Another possible negativity that could be manifest in the position of The Other Partner is that they have set themselves up to participate in a dramatic confrontation with others. This can simply be a default setting, because one is used to the idea (on some level) of being caught up in confrontations with others. To avoid this, practice extreme grounding and shielding, keeping in your personal energy no matter what happens around you.

       Throughout the day, in meditative space and outside of it, be very aware of the energetic roots that connect your energy system to that of Mother Earth’s. Feel how strongly you are rooted to the Earth. Feel how grounded you can feel. Feel how extra, nervous, negative energy slides down so easily and is absorbed by the Earth. Be very aware that Nature Herself has also provided you with an energetic shield, that protects you from all incoming emotional and mental energies. Feel how solid this shield is, as it keeps any and all emotional and mental attacks from you. Without allowing the images of any specific people to form in your mind, be aware of how there might be dramatic/negative interactions in the world around you….but that with the grounding roots and your energetic shields, everyone else’s energies do not seem to affect you.

       Practice being unaffected by the negativity of the world around you.

    Concerning the position of The Lover, some possible negativity might come from the idea that we can’t fulfill all of our relationship needs in one person. (The Lover needs to be in relationship with their Spouse and The Other Partner.)  This idea is related to the concept that we need other people to fulfill our emotional needs. While it is nice to be able to relate to other people in positive ways in positive interactions–as humans, we have this idea that emotional fulfillment only comes from receiving specific responses from the human beings around us.

    In light or formal meditation, allow the images of significant others to surround you–allow all significant others, past and present to appear. Center and allow yourself to realize that every person that comes into your life is reflecting the good qualities that you possess within yourself. As pure spirit, you are the macrocosm, the totality and the completeness of The Universe. Any good you see or perceive in others is a reflection of the good within you. When you “want” something from another adult, you are projecting that particular quality into that other person and ignoring that very quality within your personal energy. For example, when you need Validation from a spouse and/or a lover, you are not acknowledging the Self Validation that a higher aspect of your Being has for yourself. The Self Validation is a constant presence and needs no activity or action to justify its presence.  Your soul approves of you at all times, whether your human personality is aware of it or not.


    Other questions that you may ask yourself in meditation and journaling are:  Is there any need to create drama just for the sake of drama? Does it seem normal to have drama or confrontation?  Is there any need to become a sort of villain to others? How much of a need is there to have to choose between two options that will leave one lacking something after one option is eliminated? Do you feel the need to have some bittersweet or melancholic memories and feel the loss of someone? Is it possible to be in life situations in which everyone is fine, no one is hurt and everyone wins?

    The third and final position is that of The Spouse. This is the one that is the primary relationship partner, not included in the extramarital affair. Negative aspects of being in this position could be the need to be the victim. What are the payoffs of being “the victim”–sympathy from others? Commiseration with other victims? The justification of immersing one’s self in negative emotion or dramatic expression?

    Possible causes for being in this position could be that one needs to justify feeling like one is not enough for The Lover. Low self esteem is not the same thing as humility….and is not something to coddle or celebrate.  In light or formal meditation, become aware of moving in the vastness of your own hidden energy. As you become aware of your personal resources, allow yourself to feel like a Complete Being–mentally stretch beyond this concept and imagine what it would be like to be “beyond Complete”. As you contemplate your hidden resources, allow yourself to daydream on OTHER people perceiving you as the perfect marriage partner. In this meditation, allow yourself to feel what it would be like to know OTHER people felt happy, loved and satisfied in your presence. Allow yourself to imagine feeling other people being in love or enamored with you. Imagine what it would be like to be completely in love with yourself.

    Repeat meditations in all three positions of the Infidelity Triangle.  Keep a diary and record your experiences and insights.

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What are the realistic limitations of Magick? Actual Sorcery vs. Role Playing

  • This answer seems to lie on a sliding scale. Just as there are a number of magicians, there are a number of responses to this. The answer is very individual. The limitations rely on the magician, themselves. What is Magick? My working definition for Magick, at this point, is that magick is the conscious effort to solidify desire or imagination into personal experience.

        A magician is not a God.  A magician is not someone who is always able to transform an unwanted set of circumstances into a desired set of circumstances. A magician is someone who has somewhat of a grasp on how desire is projected into reality, a basic understanding of the mechanics….not that they can always make it happen, but that they apply techniques to influence circumstance and are constantly refining the processes that let them accomplish that more often and on a grander scale.  Some people are better than others at magick–not because there is anything such as natural talent or “more power”.  Internally, a better magician has less psychological limitations that are contrary to the manifestation of the desired outcome.

       For those of us who are basically self-taught, we might have come to books on magick. As beginners, we are excited as we read the basics, looking forward to successfully manifesting each spell into solid reality. We adhere to the principles of magick for years, sometimes manifesting our daily desires, sometimes not. From the outside, we might receive criticism because non-magicians think that we should….or think that we believe that we do….manifest concrete results EVERY time we perform an act of magick.

    Are we unrealistic and over-confident….are we deluded?

       I’ve tried to be an atheist and view the world as a complete materialist. The experiences I have with clairvoyance, clairaudience and having detailed “petitions” manifesting exactly the way I wanted them to give me a clue that magick works….when conditions are right.

    As far as “conditions” go–I don’t believe in the basics of correspondences having to be perfectly accurate in order for a manifestation to occur. I’ve completely cast spells during the “wrong” moon phase, “wrong” day, lacking the “correct” herbs, oils, and ingredients and still had my petition granted.  I’ve performed with and without props.  New Age, Christian mysticism and other “mental magick” types of manifestation-techniques have worked for me without using any sort of physical tools.  There have been times when I simply petitioned or stated my desire, visualized, written or spoken. The state of being that I was in….the certainty or conviction that something was so, was all the fertile soil I needed to plant my desire in.

        Beginning instructions on magick can be so hit-and-miss. Spells might work, sometimes. Techniques might work, sometimes. Some teachers hint that the magick or the spirituality that is sometimes born out of magickal workings, will transform the magician. It is not explicitly stated that the magickal working succeeds because of the personal transformation of the magician–that at a certain level of consciousness, more magickal workings will manifest more often. In some metaphysical teachings, it is believed that the personal world is a projection (or reflection) of the thoughts, feelings, conclusions and beliefs of the individual. This includes all conscious and subconscious aspects, including those that are in the psyche by default–left over from childhood and those concepts that are subconsciously accepted as true….”the way that things are”.

    The question is–why can’t we manifest what we want every time we perform a magickal act? (And before it comes to mind, using the excuses of incorrect astrological phase, lack of corresponding herbs/oils/stones and other external props or conditions are just that–excuses.)  Magicians can manifest with a lack of supplies or without proper/traditional timing that corresponds to the nature of the working.


    When we manifest some event, circumstances or objects just as we had intended, it is equivalent to a beginning baker cooking a batch of cookies–some cookies come out perfectly, part of the batch comes out fine, sometimes all of the cookies are fantastic and other times….everything in the oven is burned.


    Magicians are not absolute god-like manifesters. Magicians are still human and must work with and through their human personalities.  However, magicians are those that know too much about the process of how manifest reality works to abdicate responsibility.  Magicians affect as much as they can in any situation to tilt the scales in their favor. Even when they are not actively attempting to influence any outcome, they are very aware of the subtle, passive, everyday processes that create each moment. To be in the physical world is to be part of the creative process of manifestation. For better or worse, that is just the way it is.

       The practice of magick/manifestation is not anything special, set aside for only a few people. The practice of sorcery, mental magick, manifestation is merely the conscious practice of being aware of how the manifest universe already works and had always worked….it is the deliberate act of consciously choosing which thoughts, which feelings, which convictions and beliefs one would like to focus on. It is the conscious decision of what one would like to accept as a personal truth in their corner of the manifest universe.

       What blocks us from manifesting exactly the scenario and circumstances that we have in mind is when there is an incompatible energy (sometimes in the form of a thought or feeling) that is stronger than the desired outcome. Old perceptions, old negative conclusions, left over from childhood or the past…even old convictions that we never thought to question or filter out can still affect our current efforts.

       So, while we keep to practical matters–not overspending our paycheck while we are working on letting in more physical abundance, being attentive to our loved ones while we are still working on our self esteem, taking care of the car Grandma loaned us while praying for our new truck–we can still work on clearing out those internal obstacles to clean, clear, direct manifestation.

    To start the process, take some clean paper or a work journal and freewrite your responses to such questions as–How good of a magician am I?  How effective is my magick?  Can I manifest anything that I want?  How can I become a better magician?  Am I comfortable watching my desires manifest into solid form?  How can I accept that I am an efficient magician?  Why do I deserve to have my magick work?  What in my past will help me become a better magician?

    For specific manifestation, we will use the example of manifesting a $20 bill–How can I manifest $20?  Am I comfortable experiencing the manifestation of $20?  How will I react to having the $20 in my hand?  How will I change before I hold the $20 in my hand?  How will everyone react to my manifesting $20?  What happens after I have the $20 in my hand?

    Meditate on all positive information, responses and feedback to this written exercise.


Disciplining God: Dealing With Those Childhood Thoughtforms

The practice of magick has roots in the religious practices of one’s childhood. What we learn about the Divine and how we can petition that concept of “God” is what lays the groundwork for when we consciously begin to practice the metaphysical and magickal arts, later on. As a child, I was not really given the belief that I was going to get my prayers answered.

The concept of answered prayers was more of a passing, obligatory reference–something that was more of a possible theory, rather than an actual experience. The idea that stood out more to me was that I was a sinner…that I was condemned…that I was undeserving. Sinners don’t deserve to have their prayers answered. Sinners can be forgiven, eventually, sometime off into the far future–if they put a lot of suffering and repentance into it….but, that should be their main spiritual focus.

We should be allowed to pray for particular results–but when we put more belief, more conviction into our identity as sinners….no other prayer work can really manifest through that energy. The thoughtform of being an undeserving, unloved sinner becomes the emotional waters that colors all of our other spiritual petitions. Prayers are like unborn babies.  Our thoughts and feelings are like the amniotic fluid that the baby gestates in. No non-compatible prayers can survive in those negative personal energies.

Being a Sinner isn’t always cleaned out of some of our psyches. We just learn to function as best as we can with the heaviness that comes with that self-identification. Some of us were never taught to have a sense of deserving what we want….much less, deserving our good. By the time we come to consciously accepting that we can possibly have a say in our lives through the performance of magick or conscious manifestation, we have spent many years reinforcing the self-identification of being undeserving. Perhaps when we are introduced to the Pagan gods, it is not always (or completely) that we really believe in them as having had their own independent existence, as much as we would like to believe that there are nicer gods than what Christianity offered us. It might not always be a recognition, as much as a hope that maybe, someday, we will stop believing in an uncaring or mean God.

Even if we never articulate it, some of us come to feel that God has at least abandoned us on this earth–if he is not outright intentionally out to screw us over. MY theory is that we we were never dealing with actual independent, autonomous entities, but more so with thoughtforms masquerading as autonomous entities. I have been working with pagan gods and archetypal godforms for quite a few years, now. But, is it possible that the mean, withholding God of my childhood was still left unresolved in my psyche?

Old thoughtforms can still live as memories. Just as we can have traumatic events or emotionally charged relationships frozen in our subconscious, replaying scenes in vivid color or intense emotion….is it possible that the unpleasantness of our childhood relationship with God is still frozen in some deep part of our psyche? Is it still affecting us, even as we have moved on to other gods?

Working with the imagery of our relationships with the most powerful adults in our childhood can help heal the patterns that our adult relationships are formed after. Many of us simply thought we had ignored or abandoned the Christian God of our early life, on a conscious level. Perhaps there might be some value in consciously healing the negativity that we experienced in the first relationships we had with our childhood concept of Divinity.

This is such a taboo idea. When we were children, it is more than likely that we were taught to never question the actions and attitudes of God (as they were described to us)….God was perfect and above any critique or criticism.  Unless children were taught to meditate on their own and given a positive impression of the Divine, most of what passes as religious study is the building of a negative thoughtform.   Any and all negative aspects of “God” were to be unquestioned and accepted, under the guise of being dutiful or obedient.

With some of us, God was the original negative force. God was the original withholder, an unfair judge and unable to be pleased. This was the first negative relationship we had with (our incorrect concept of) the Divine. The was the first negative filter we had to justify our perception of not deserving our good, to justify being treated unfairly and not being able to receive what we asked for.

To unravel the negativity of this relationship, we treat this relationship just the same as we could heal any negativity we experienced with our family members. Prepare your space just as you would for any other meditation. Smudge. Cast circle. Do whatever you feel is appropriate.

Breathe deeply. Center yourself. Keeping in mind that you are going to be entering this meditation and acting as your Adult Self (present self), gently allow yourself to feel centered and comfortable in whatever you describe as your personal power. When you are ready, allow yourself to float as far back….or as deep within….as you can, meeting up with your childhood awareness of your conception of “God”.

Keeping yourself in third person, allow yourself to enter a scene where you find the images of your child self relating to God–in whichever way your child self envisions God. When you are comfortable viewing your child self, allow yourself to become aware of what your child self feels, thinks and wants from God. Breathe back into your adult power and centeredness. Within this internal space, address God directly as your adult self. Without judging your reaction, say whatever it is that you would like to say to God at this point, if you could say whatever it is that you wanted to say…then or now.  Don’t worry if you are actually working with a literal memory, a symbolic representation or a mixture of both.

Allow yourself to scold, criticize, demand and be negative, if it seems natural….if your (thoughtform of) God was withholding, unfair or unkind in any way. In this meditation space, you are speaking up for your child self that might have felt wronged in some way. If your thoughtform of God did not reflect the generosity, abundance or any other sort of goodness that reflects the beauty of the Universe as you now understand it, let your thoughtform know that he is not representing a generous, loving Universe to your child self. As your adult self, tell this thoughtform what he is supposed to do and how he is supposed to act, to more accurately reflect the abundance and generosity of the universe. Allow yourself to speak freely, in any way which brings you relief. If you like, allow “God” to manifest in some form and allow “God” to apologize or otherwise make amends, and correct his behavior.

Feel free to revisit this internal space, as many times as feels right.  Record your experiences and reactions in your journal.

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