Questioning the Validity and Usefulness of Negative Emotion

This might not be the most popular stance to take, but this is as valid a technique in emotional body healing as any other. This technique is simple, however it runs contrary to what we have been taught by the world, since the time we were born into physical form.

This technique is not for the standard human. Because of the tendency to hold onto the past and to validate negative emotions, this technique can even be considered “advanced”, for self-healing and for the serious spiritual student, magician and metaphysician.

If there is the intellectual curiosity and intuitive knowledge that this technique might hold healing power…BUT, there is still some emotional resistance to this process…step back from this technique and explore other possible obstacles to this concept. Does holding onto the past or holding onto negative emotion seem to justify reacting in any particular way? Are you attached to reacting “normally” to trauma, memory or pain?  Are you really ready to let go of the past?

When we hold onto the past….whether it is because of a singular traumatic event, a repeating pattern or an emotional reaction that we think of as normal… sometimes we do so out of the illogical fear that remembering the past or reliving it in some way will keep us safe, from re-experiencing it the same way, again. This would be fine, if in the constant replay, we didn’t continue to feel (re-experience) the same negative feelings we experienced initially. In some cases, we can’t let go of a trauma or let go of blaming someone for our negative experience, because we haven’t figured out how it happened the first time and therefore how to logically prevent it from happening, again.

When enough time has passed from the initial traumatizing (or upsetting) event, we need to keep in mind that some personal and environmental factors have probably already changed, since that time. If the traumatizing event happened when one was a child and one is now an adult, physically most of us are much stronger, know how to enlist legal and professional help, often have others in our lives who could help prevent the event from occurring in the present time, and have a wealth of resources in terms of information and otherwise that we did not have as children. As far as prevention of a reoccurrence of the event goes, we need to keep in mind that being aware of and utilizing those resources can take place only when one is fully aware of the present moment and not living outside of the current time and place….that is, in one’s mind.

When one is reliving a traumatic (emotionally and/or physically) event in their mind, one is taken out of the present moment. In the present moment, one can be aware of their physical surroundings. If there is a physical danger, one can be aware of the warning clues present, including whichever other factors that might keep one’s self safe or able to escape. If the triggering factors are emotional or mental in nature, staying in the present moment will allow one’s self to stay grounded and clear-thinking, so that they can respond and react in as positive and empowering a way as possible.

Even though it seems counter-intuitive, staying in the trauma of a memory or replaying the constant emotional reference usually does not allow one to get past the mental event. There are the chances that one will EVENTUALLY burn out on a particular emotional reference, given enough repitition, but there is no guarantee and certainly no timeline on when it is supposed to happen. Especially when one can build up other mental associations to justify the replay of the memory or reference.

When the trauma or emotional reference is strong enough to keep a “memory” of sorts repeating in one’s psyche (like an internal mental video loop), then changing the submodalities will help break the repetitive playback. Consciously allow the memory or the visual representation to come into full awareness, complete with all of the sensory elements. Within meditation or imagination, distance yourself physically from the visual image/s–see the scene as becoming separate from your personal body. Change ALL of the sensory elements–if there is any dialog, change the pitch and volume of the voice so that they are more comical and less threatening….with the visual factors, change the colors to pastels, stripes, polka dots, black-and-white….change the texture and temperatures….imagine different tastes in your mouth and odors in your nose….add circus music or any other background music….be creative and see how many sensory elements you can make up and alter. When you are done, take an internal inventory. Do you feel any different towards the initial event? Finally, send the dissociated image far away, maybe into the Sun.

Now, with the traumatic event emotionally deactivated and defused, you are free to explore the various aspects on a more mental level. This will be working with the mental references, in general. For our working example, let us pick something (relatively) less charged. Let us work with Sadness.

Create sacred, safe space using whichever methods you find appropriate. Cleanse the physical space with incense or salt water. Invoke the elements or other spirits. Cast a circle. Whatever seems intuitively correct. In this safe space, center yourself. Either in meditation or free association, ask yourself if Sadness enriches your life in any way. Can you get your goals met through being Sad or expressing Sadness?

Expressing negative emotion works for children. Most feeling adults will attempt to rescue or soothe babies and small children, when they are expressing distress of any sort.  As these children grow, there might be less inclination on the parts of adults to respond to their signs of distress, as they might be seen to be old enough to either take care of their own needs or that they are overreacting to external circumstances.  By the time that they are adults, crying or expressing upset is not necessarily responded to with as much sympathy by the general public.  As a matter of fact, some expressions of neediness can be seen as unappealing and unattractive, rather eliciting distaste or some degree of revulsion by the other surrounding adults.

By the time we become adults, we are not supposed to convey distress in the same way that we did as children.  We might not have been told explicitly to stop expressing a need for rescue….but, to some degree, there might still be that expectation that someone will fix our problems for us, even though we will have learned different ways of asking for rescue….even if it is by trying to manipulate someone else’s emotions into running to our rescue.

When we think we need someone to emotionally rescue us, we force ourselves to stay in that negative emotional space (Sadness) where the emotional cues to non-verbally ask for rescue live (appearing sad or hurt, expressing that through our bodies, facial expressions, tone of voice).  We want someone to satisfy our needs, while we must remain in that Sad, Depressed, Unhappy state.  We cannot ever be satisfied emotionally because we would have to leave that emotional state where all of those childhood tools and techniques are kept.  Once we leave that dependent state, we no longer have access to those tools of expressed distress.  As long as we rely on using those tools, we cannot ever experience anything resembling positive emotion or happiness.

The negative state (Sadness) that we want to be rescued from holds our tools (expressions of Sadness, that hopefully people respond to) for asking for rescue….we cannot use those tools of expressed distress, without being stuck in that sad, negative-emotion state.

What does feeling Sadness get us?  What does expressing Sadness do?  It is a reaction to not having our reality the way that we want it, at the moment–but, metaphysically speaking, positive manifestations cannot be made with negative energies.  It might get us some temporary sympathy….perhaps, it can gain us some attention.  But, ultimately, if the goal is to eventually be happy in any way, expressing Sadness chains us to further Sadness and the need to feel Sad in order to garner sympathy and rescue.

Which is the imaginary goal in using Sadness….is it that by feeling Sad, someone will take pity on us, give us attention, show us how much they care, therefore expressing their Concern, Love or Caring for us?  Most often, people who relate to other people who are Sad are reminded of their own Sadness–present, past, internal or hidden.  There are much more people who react to Sadness by mirroring it in some way, matching it because of the other person expressing it towards them.

More often than not, because of similarity of vibration, Sad people can only resonate with other people who are just as sad or close to being just as Sad.  A victim cannot emotionally resonate with someone who is not some sort of victim, themselves.  Often an emotional victim wishes for someone who will rescue them in a one-sided sort of way, like a lifeguard rescuing someone drowning in water or a paramedic rescuing someone from physical distress.  Unless the relationship is one between psychologist/psychiatrist/professional counselor and client/patient, it is highly unlikely that someone will rescue us the same way in a personal relationship.  The person who is emotionally rescuing us will usually need something back in return or will be off to rescue someone else as soon as we are out of our current level of distress.

In the same meditation session, ask yourself–What are alternatives to Sadness that will help me reach my goals?  Which positive emotions will be more functional?  Is it really practical to be Sad?  What is the positive emotion I would want to gain by showing Sadness to others?  Work with that positive emotion, directly.

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The Energy Model and An Unusual Approach to Love Magick

This approach involves looking at energy in a slightly different way than what we are taught is standard, even in most modern metaphysical schools.  Rather than thinking of the point of manifestation as using energy, visualization and other magickal technique to manifest the physical experience of a romantic relationship, a sexual encounter or a specific person….we are looking at the internal reaction afterwards as the last event, the final manifestation of a scenario.

The manifestation of an object or event in the physical is not the final stage.  It is always the internal reaction of the manifestor/magician that is the true end result.  Once the car is made manifest in reality, the magician responds to the manifestation with positive and/or negative emotions.  Mental realizations come up as everything from a self-affirming “Ohmigosh, I did it.  I am a powerful magician.  The Universe loves me” to the negative “Holy crap.  How can I keep from losing this?  I can’t afford this.”

We change reality–we alter circumstances and conditions, move objects in and out of physical proximity–because we consciously strive to evoke a reaction and subconsciously want to bring our hidden thoughts and feelings to light.  In the perception of the more enlightened magician, all we are trying to do is transform our internal self.  Looking at reality in terms of eventually evoking internal reaction, we are simply trying to remind ourselves, giving ourselves triggers, to remember particular energies.

We are manipulating complicated life-structures to justify our personal perception of particular energies.  These energies are already and have always been in existence.  We are manipulating worldly form to justify the belief that we CAN perceive these energies in our mental and emotional bodies.

Using this model of reasoning, it can be seen that the desire to manifest a Love Relationship is the desire to manipulate enough material circumstance and events in a way which will culminate in manifesting those feelings that one’s psyche associates with being in a Love Relationship.

The frustration that the magician can feel before the Love Relationship is manifested (“not real, yet”) and/or the frustration that the magician can feel when they attempted to manifest the Love Relationship (and it didn’t happen or didn’t happen exactly as consciously requested) is….using the Energy Model of Magick….the justification of the false belief that the mage cannot access those particular “emotional” energies that one has associated with Love Relationships.

To make this more concrete, let us start with a common example.  Let us assume that one has associated feeling Adored with the experience of being in a Love Relationship.    Although, we can sense any and all energies, regardless of physical scenarios….let us work with this example to break down the idea that a seeming lack of the physical experience of a Love Relationship can prevent the mage from any desired internal experience.  Let us work with this concept of association more directly to defuse any of its previously-held power over us, especially on a more subconscious level.  Not everyone can jump to the idea that all happiness comes from self or The Universe.  Some of us still work with the association of feelings to material-world events and objects.

Rather than believing that I cannot possibly be Adored until I am in a Romantic Relationship, and until I am experiencing particular acts with or hearing particular dialog from my Beloved–I am questioning what I previously thought a Romantic Relationship held for me….that I could not experience without it.  With honest questioning and reflection, I have come up with a list of feelings and convictions (feeling loved, the ecstasy of good sex, feeling whole, being content, feeling cared for)….and among them is the feeling that I am adored by someone.

Now, that I am aware of what essences, concepts and energies that I have mentally hidden on the other side of successfully manifesting a material-world event….I am ready to work with these concepts on another level.  Using our target of feeling Adored, I can recognize that it is actually the internal experience of those particular feelings that I really want.  As a spiritual being, I fully recognize that I am able to sense any and all energies, including those of Adoration.  I can do a full ceremony, invoking a magick circle and calling elements or guardians.  If I choose to work with Adoration in an energy meditation, that is also acceptable.

I can sense Adoration as an essence or vibration of The Universe.  I can feel how far this energy extends.  If I want to, I can play with other associations–the color of the energy of Adoration…and other associations that can manifest from that energy (such as animal spirits, elemental associations, and so on).  I would free associate during the meditation itself, rather than research or plan ahead before the meditation.  These would ensure more personal triggers and possibly give further insight to other personal associations.

Do this for all of the energies associated with the manifestation of a Love Relationship.  Once all of the energies have been worked with, note which changes have been made internally and possibly, in the external.  Repeat this cycle of energy work.  See what happens.

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Evolution, Entertainment and Escapism–Being A Genuine Person In A Metaphysical World

When I first joined a coven, I had the impression that every other pagan that I knew had the same goal as I did.  I might have described it differently back then, but the intention I had was to realize my Oneness with Deity.  Enlightenment was my primary goal.  Practicing metaphysics and magick was a pathway towards the treasures of spirituality.  My secondary goal of being a magickal adept was a means to eliminate my sense of worldly limitation, all of the negative distractions that could get in my way, so that I could instead focus more on spiritual realities.

I noticed that a lot of Witches and Magicians confused Magick with Spirituality.  Some systems talk about Low Magick and High Magick, but even making those distinctions can lead to some mix up among the magicians.  Not that there is anything wrong with Low Magick, Earth Magick….or magick of any sort of type.  But, if your goal is Spirituality, it is best to understand that magick is not the same creature….it can lend to spirituality, lead to it, but just because you are performing magick, it does not guarantee that you are going to have a spiritual experience.

A Spiritual Experience, as I understand it, is experience of Oneness with Spirit, The Supreme Reality, The Universe, The Ultimate Deity.  It is that complete blending of “self” with The Universal Self, that is experienced as Wholeness.  We can reach this ultimate experience when we are meditating.  We can slip into this state when we are experiencing magick or the positive feelings that come after magickal ritual or manifestation, as a sort of meditation.

According to some models of reality, we experience the world around us because the physical world is a reflection of convictions, beliefs and attitudes that we carry around in our mental and emotional bodies.  The physical world is a reflection of what we have inside of our psyches, conscious and subconscious thoughts and feelings.  Magick is simply the process of consciously choosing to change what we observe, perceive and experience through our senses.  It might not be the easiest process for everyone to perform, but this is the straightforward definition of the procedure.

Spirituality is being aware of and resting in our nature as Spiritual Beings.  Being aware of our spiritual nature is being aware of the Oneness with Spirit, experienced as Love, Omnipresence and Peace.

As human beings, experiencing a human life, all of the conditions of being human are based on limiting awareness of being a Spiritual Person.  That’s completely fine, if that is your choice.  And the ratio to which there is human-limitation/spiritual-awareness is completely individual and fine.  Any self-definition which is not bringing your awareness to a state of all-encompassing Peace, Love and Omnipresence is based on worldly limitation.  Enjoy being human.  But, don’t profess that a human experience is a spiritual one.  They are not the same and they don’t need to be.

There are some manifestations and some fantasies in this world that are purely for entertainment purposes.  They will not lead to enlightenment.  They are not supposed to be.  Choose entertainment, but do not try to pass it off as anything else.  In my hometown, our local Catholic Church has recently become a bit more charismatic in their practices.  It is really none of my business, but I keep in mind that these are people who might not be able to relate to my spiritual experiences if we converse about meditative experiences.

Some of them might enter a meditative state through dynamic meditation, but there is no guarantee that that is what is happening.  With the singing, loud music, dancing and clapping–they could be enjoying the equivalent to the euphoria of a music concert or a good jog.  Given, meditation can happen through adoration of any ideal, if the adoration is used a technique of meditation…but, there is no open training on meditative technique in the local church.

It is entirely possible to enjoy a church service, but it is not the same thing as having a spiritual experience.

Spiritual Oneness is complete satisfaction.  It is the state of Fullness, Wholeness, Completeness.  It is perfectly fine to experience and enjoy the manifest world, but keep in mind that the internal experience of complete Happiness is not to be found in the material world.  If you want it here in the physical world, stop complaining that you can’t find it IN the material world, that someone (or everyone) isn’t bringing it to you.  Experience it in the Spiritual World and bring it down to this world, as a spiritual gift.

On a related note, trying to validate specialness by citing physical-world details or claims also does not equate to Spiritual awareness.  The metaphysical communities are full of people who love to list their lineages, alleged (spiritual) parentage, degrees, training, philosophies….Some people have the impression that a description, factoid or claim equates to specialness in some way.  And by being special, particular treatment by others and/or the universe is guaranteed to follow.

Just because I am related to someone on the local City Council does not mean that I have any political influence in my community.  My Father having a lot of money does not mean that I have any of it.  My Grandmother and my Mother were wise and inspirational, during their time on Earth–that doesn’t guarantee that I will always come off the same way. I can claim all of the intelligence, metaphysical knowledge, identity as a Vampire/Wizard/Dark Fairy, psychic powers, magickal powers….I can make claims about anything.  I can even talk someone into having an emotional reaction to any of those claims.  However, talk is still cheap….even in the metaphysical communities.

Demonstration of Centeredness, Calm and Peace is so much more powerful and practical than long, drawn-out stories of events or circumstances that might not EVER be played out for the listener.  Demonstration of deep Peace speaks volumes.

 

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Your Feelings and The Holidays

Just a quick note for anyone who is even a little metaphysically-oriented:

 

Don’t be saving up your happiness until the calendar rolls around to another holiday or holiday season.  You are connected to Spirit at all times–therefore, you are connected to unlimited Joy and Bliss, at all times.  Waiting until there is a worldly excuse, like a specific date, to become aware of that Omnipresent Happiness does not mean that it only exists at certain times of the year.

On the flipside to that, do not blame the holidays for any unhappiness.  Again, you are connected to Spirit, therefore connected to unlimited Joy, at all times.  If there is any negative  feeling that you become aware of, that is because of thoughtforms that you have associated with this time of the year….or you are using this time of the year as an excuse to become aware of those thoughtforms.

If you are any sort of student of metaphysics, remember that awareness of Happiness has nothing to do with physical circumstances, manifestations or scenarios.  Be Happy just because that is the nature of Spirit.  You are actually more productive and clear-headed when experiencing positive energies, so that you can deal with real-world situations better and faster.

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A Loose Analysis of The Metaphysical Implications of Buying Tacos for Fernando

People like to believe that they are good.

Some people.  Many people.  Okay, I liked to think that I was good.  Children are constantly told that they need to behave in order to be good people.  Adults often still want to be told that they are good people.  Really, we are complimented by others when we follow their orders, when we are obedient to the rules and regulations that we have been given.  Our reward is that we get to feel validated, approved and safe.   Others tell us that we are good people….God must think that we are good….We get to think of ourselves as good.

We perform physical acts in the world.  We do things for others and, for the most part, our motivations in doing particular acts is because we expect that there will be specific outcomes or effects from our actions.

We live in a world of cause and effect.  Even if it does not always seem that way, at base level, we expect and/or fear that every one of our actions will bring about some sort of change or manifestation.  This is simply the nature of the world that we live in.  Even if we don’t necessarily believe that our desired outcome will be the result, we still hope it will be and we put out our best efforts to sway reality.  We might vary in our beliefs about how much we control reality, but many of us hope that we have some sort of input towards the end result.

Many people equate selflessness with “goodness”–being a “good person” means that every consequence is in reference to someone else’s benefit.  However, with the nature of our minds being what they are….constantly calculating, second guessing, analyzing, fearing, hoping and adding/deducing causality….we cannot avoid using our “self” in our thought processes.  Everything we do is self-referential in some way.  Because of the analytical natures of our minds, our minds always run ecology checks to guess what is going to come of our current actions.  We are the observers in our worlds and we cannot take ourselves out of the equation.

All of our acts in the world lend to eventual outcomes.  Sometimes, it is not so much the physical act itself, but the expectations (negative and positive) about the conclusions that add a lot more energy to the end result.

The same physical act will have different sorts and intensities of energy, depending on the thoughtforms associated with the particular details of each specific scenario.  For our working example, I will use the scenario when I buy tacos for Fernando.

If Fernando were my child, buying him tacos could feel like an obligation, a necessary chore.  I could feel resentful, because the act of paying for tacos could feel like another bill, because (other factors aside), it is a necessary expense.  My action could be surrounded by the energies of resentment, irritation and poverty consciousness.  However, if I allowed myself to feel intense love and appreciation for my child Fernando, I could be focused on my caring for him, including the satisfaction that he would feel after he ate.  In this scenario, I would be adding a lot of positive energy to my act.  Depending on my mindset, I could also feel the self-satisfaction of identifying myself as a good or loving parent, providing for my offspring.

If Fernando were one of my adult loved ones–a cousin, brother, friend, lover–I could feel either the resentment of the self-imposed obligation of feeding them, another expense.  Also, because they are older and presumably more cognizant, I might subconsciously expect them to feel gratitude because of my feeding them, when I had no legal responsibility to do so.  Perhaps, because I perceive this adult loved one as more of a thinking being, I expect my kind act of buying them tacos to merit a “thank you” on their part or to impart a pleasant feeling that will be remembered later.  Perhaps later, this warm feeling will be associated with me and they will be kind towards me, to repay me with some unspecified action or perform a specific action at my request.

If Fernando were some person that I just knew, though not a friend, I could buy him tacos because I believed that everyone needed to eat.  If I bought his tacos on that principal alone, I am just mentally supporting the idea that everyone should eat and no one should ever go hungry.  His response might be completely irrelevant to me.  But, it is also still possible that I could be expecting some gesture of gratitude on the part of Fernando.  I could also be expecting to get some sort of credit of approval from any onlooking audience who saw me pay for the tacos.  In my mind, I could expect some karmic compensation for the charity of the act.

It’s the same physical act.  What changes is the personal expectation of what the act means to me, cause and effect.  It is the consciousness of the thoughts that directs the energy, which manifests as the next moment.  Most important is awareness, which can vary, regardless of the same physical action.  Pay attention to what you are thinking and direct your attention consciously to which energy you want to experience.

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Healing Love Addiction, Clinginess, Emotional Dependence and Other Sticky Feelings

Where do I start?  How about if I point out that the point of spirituality is to be completely aware of your Oneness with the Divine?  Let’s start there.

On the spiritual pathway, we often mix in magick, manifestation, and emotional empowerment.  It is not always a clearcut, direct pathway back towards the ecstasy of Oneness.  Depending on the limitations and structures of our individual personalities, some of us manifest in our human lives as being emotionally dependent beings.  We are the type that wants to find fulfillment through manifesting our preconceived ideals of a satisfying romantic relationship.  We are the type most likely to cast a lot of love spells, maybe also exploring the New Age or self-help aspects of relationships and how to manifest them.

In metaphysical thought, our nature….our true state is Oneness with the Divine.  If we could describe it in human terms, we might think of it as a state of Fulfillment, Completeness, Wholeness.  Nothing is missing.  Everything is included.

However, in order to have a human experience, we must limit our awareness of the bliss of Completeness.  We take on mental and emotional illusions to be human.  To be human is to cut off our full spiritual awareness.  In order to live a human life, we have to narrow our consciousness.

This is neither good, nor bad….but the nature of human existence.  One viewpoint on DESIRE is that we are aware of being part of or “having” something on an energetic or spiritual level….and, coupled with the human delusion that we are separate from that “thing” or energy, we feel the instinct to realize our union with that object of desire, once more.

Being human, we are still aware of the state of Oneness, but it is not a complete awareness….it is almost like a memory or a intuitive knowing that this is a possible state.  As humans, we desire to be in complete awareness, once more.  However, also as humans, we filter this intuition through our human-mental reasoning.  We come up with plans and conclusions for how we get this state of Union back.  Depending on how much we are convinced that the physical world and its objects affect our moods, feelings and states….we come up with conclusions about what needs to happen in the physical world before we are allowed to have the very specific feeling/sensory experience that we describe as “love” or “being in love” or “being loved”.

As humans, some of us incorrectly conclude that we need to have very specific people with very specific qualities (physical or otherwise) perform very specific actions.  Then, and only then, will we allow our personal consciousness to be aware of our state of Completeness.  We instinctively desire to be back in full awareness of Completeness, but we incorrectly assume that it will happen when we are in a human-on-human romantic relationship.

(Depending on the individual’s personality, the substitute for the bliss of a loving/romantic human relationship could be a sexually-satisfying relationship, which follows essentially the same sort of structure, but to keep it simple, I will focus on the emotional/romantic variation.)

In metaphysical terms, there are so many mistakes with expecting Blissful Happiness to come from ANY human-on-human relationship.  The primary mistake is to expect happiness to COME FROM any physical scenario, including a relationship.  Manifestation is the end result.  Thoughts, feelings, energies come before the physical world and its activities…..happiness is what we BRING to the physical world.  Happiness does not manifest in the world UNTIL it is brought in through awareness.

Expecting happiness to COME FROM other humans, at all times, is also unreasonable.  Humans are limited creatures–that is the nature of being human.  No judgement.  That is just how we become human, by cutting off complete Spiritual Awareness and manifesting as a flawed and wounded being, in the world.  Many humans embrace, reinforce and defend their negative limitations–rationalizing that they have reasonable excuses to feel and express sadness, anger or any other negative emotion…and less reasonable justification to feel positive emotions or finer vibrations.  People who strive to experience Joy do so as a personal choice, understanding that it is a personal unfolding.  Unless someone takes personal responsibility for their internal experience, there is no guarantee that they will not continue to express and manifest learned negative human emotion.  It is unfair to expect other people to make you feel loved and/or happy.  A spiritually responsible being brings their own happiness into their relationships.

I have nothing to really back up my perception of children’s experience–what it means to be a child, in metaphysical terms.  I simply have some ideas that I’ve grown into–but, as yet, have little logical support for my thoughts.  That being said, I will now share them.  At this point, I will simply claim that I intuitively find these concepts to be the most correct for my  understanding–I personally believe that at the stage of childhood, we still hold much of our intuition about our state of Wholeness.  As we become more cognitive human beings, we are in two places at once–still intuitively aware of our Oneness with the Divine, as we settle into our humanhood, with its human limitation and delusions.  The conflict is when we are trying to relate to the limited human world (where there is the illusion of separation), while still instinctively remembering the already-present connection with everything on the spiritual level.  It is my personal opinion that this discrepancy is the cause of distress in children–the sense of entitlement (on a spiritual level) and the upset over lack of immediate physical gratification is because, on some level, they still remember the oneness with everything that they seem to be separate from in the physical world.

As we grow up, most of us tend to forget the Oneness more and more, until we completely feel separated from everything.  There is that sense of separation, plus some of us still remember the frustration of being denied or feeling like something is being withheld from us–when we did remember possessing it, at one point.

To further complicate things, children are sometimes placated by adults when they show signs of emotional distress, such as crying.  While it is reasonable to expect to take care of children when they are small, we normally do not teach children to become emotionally self-sufficient as they grow.  Hopefully, children are at least taught to become physically self-sufficient–but, what lacks is training children to become the type of adult that can fill their own emotional needs.

When a capable, self-sufficient adult is hungry, they usually do not wait for someone to come feed them.  When a capable, self-sufficient adult is dirty, they usually do not wait for someone to come bathe them.  When a capable, self-sufficient adult feels cold, they usually put on more of their own clothes, adjusts the central heat and/or puts on another blanket.  They do not wait for someone to come and take care of their warmth levels for them.

For some reason, some self-sufficient adults take care and responsibility for their physical bodies, but still rely on other people to take care of their emotional needs.  Regardless of the fact that very few of us are taught how to take care of another person’s emotional needs–it is just not something that we are overtly taught how to do.  Some of us might attempt to–and might succeed in immediate (rescue or crisis) emotional care, but nothing that is long term,  deeply lasting or transformative/healing.

Those of us adults who are emotionally dependent on others, clingy or hinge our emotional responses on the actions of others…do so with unreasonable expectations.  Some of us expect the other person to make us feel loved or happy, when we have no evidence that they are able to or even want to.  We have no logical reason to assume that they are capable of doing so.  Our logic is based on a “it should be like this” cause-effect relationship, when we have no real evidence to prove that this is so.

In metaphysical terms, we are experiencing a physical world that is the reflection of the attitudes, thoughts, expectations and convictions that we hold in our mental bodies.  This can include all thoughtforms in our conscious and unconscious levels, positive and negative.  This includes all surface, analytical thought as well as those leftover thoughts from childhood–some might be ideas about how things are supposed to be, because we never challenged the ideas.

By the time we become full adults, the relationships that we create can be no better than the thoughtforms that we have invested energy into, up to that time–whichever ideas that we have about love, relationships, men, women, self-worth…all of our strongest convictions in belief manifest themselves in other people.  Unsatisfactory relationships come into our world because of limited thoughts or the lack of elevated/expansive thoughts.

Humans who do not walk the consciously spiritual path, find others to be responsible for their lack of happiness.  They hold lovers, spouses, children, family and others to provoke or withhold their emotional responses.  And that is fine.  Not everyone is spiritual.  Not everyone is following the spiritual path.  Not everyone will follow a spiritual path.  This article has nothing to do with them.

For those of us who strive to awaken, to relate to our spiritual nature once more, we take the effort to remind ourselves that our happiness comes from remembering to SENSE the finer energies that are the essence of the Divine.  Instead of reacting to the presence and movement of the physical world and its objects, we remember to SENSE the flows of energy that come from Spirit.

In formal meditation, focus on whatever you think of as The Divine….The Goddess, The Great Spirit, The Universe.  Start by imagining what it would feel like to feel Oneness with The Divine.  What is it like to feel Complete?  What is it like to feel Wholeness?  Imagine what it would be like to feel absolutely Loved…Loving….Love, Itself?  Play around with these concepts, for as long as you can.  Before coming out of this state, allow yourself to forward this into specific images from your daily life.  What will happen when you bring this state of Completeness and Wholeness into your waking life?  What kind of energy will you bring to your interactions with others?  How positively will everyone respond to this Divine energy?

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Practice Is Not The Same As Confidence And Conviction

I was listening to a video on basic instructions in spellcasting.  The instructor kept emphasizing how “practice” is the most important aspect of magick.  That the magician should not be afraid to perform the spell multiple times until the desired results manifest.  “Practice” in this sense, meant repetition of magickal activity.

As a beginning magician, I remember how often the word “practice” was used.  The analogy that so many of us go by is that the process of performing magick is somewhat equivalent to any other physical-world skill.  Performing a circle casting is supposed to become “easier” once it (physically) happens multiple times.  We visualize the flame erupting from our wand, dagger or finger…the image of the flame becomes crisper with repetition.  The light becomes brighter.  The shadows that are thrown off become darker and more distinct.  With practice, the energy seems more solid, more “real”.  The other people in the room can sense the circle, the more practice that the magician has casting it.  With practice, the circle becomes more and more real in the physical world.  In the physical world, a capable magician can cast a circle solid enough for other people to sense.

When practicing physical-world skills, such as learning how to play the guitar or becoming a faster runner, practice is a very important part of becoming better at physically performing any activity.  However, as NLP and performance psychology techniques become more mainstream practices, it is becoming clear that it is not only helpful to address the MENTAL/IMAGINARY aspects associated with practice, but sometimes imperative to its success.

Attitudes and beliefs associated with our capability and capacity affect, allow and prevent our physical performance of any activity.  The rules of magick and manifestation are very different than the rules of physical activity.  In the physical world, success of activity is brought about faster when one is convinced that one can perform the activity….and can perform it not only easily, but well.

Someone who is full of self-doubt, who has a mind-set of defeat, will take much longer to physically practice than someone who is in the affirmative attitude that they will succeed.  One must not only address the thoughts specific to the activity, but also their general attitudes towards being successful.

Before kicking the soccer ball into the goal, take time out to visualize that one can successfully make the goal.  Involve all of the senses to make the experience a real one.  Feel the smallest details–the sensation of your foot inside your sneaker.  Feel the give of the grass and ground of the playing field as you stand on it.  Feel the pressure of the contact between your foot and the ball, as you kick it.  Feel that exact moment when the ball releases away from your foot, as it sails through the air.  Feel your foot return back to the ground, the shift in your muscles as you return to standing on both feet, weight balanced between your two legs.  Feel the way your body responds to watching the ball sail perfectly into the goal–the tension and release of excitement….and finally, satisfaction.  Besides the feeling sensations, be aware of the scents associated with the playing field–the grass, possibly the dirt underneath it, maybe within a park with trees.  There are also sounds–the sound of the earth squishing if it is soft….or the thud of your shoe on firmer ground….the sound of the shoe hitting the ball….the sound of the air being cut by the ball.  Every sense needs to be involved to create a realistic experience.  Once the brain is convinced that the experience has been successfully had, then there sets in the mind the idea that one is capable of performing the activity, in the future.  The mind cannot distinct between an “actual” event and an “imaginary” event, when all of the corresponding senses have been involved.  A successful and convincing “imaginary” event means that you have done the act, in the past.

A slight variation on this theme is to recall the memory of having experienced the activity in the past.  The beauty of this is that the mind, having a presumptive function, will fabricate memories (or the details to memories) when there is no “actual” event in one’s personal history.  This is not anything that we do not already make use of.  We often skew recall, often in negative ways, to confirm present-time attitudes.  When we are depressed, we can only recall memories which make the same emotional atmosphere.  In this state, all happy memories do not exist, because they cannot be recalled.  This goes for every other mood.  We cannot remember happy moments (or relate to them, anyway), when we are depressed–and vice versa.

BEFORE practicing any magickal activity–whether that is a technique in spellcasting, any particular type of spell, or manifesting any particular type of event or object–take time to make sure that you can RELATE to successfully manifesting the desired results in that area.

In metaphysical understanding, we can only physically experience those events and situations that we can relate to being “real” through our physical senses.  If the sensory details are real to our senses of sight, taste, touch, hearing and smell–it is a real event to us.  The mind cannot tell the difference between an imaginary and a physical event–they are the same thing to our personal senses.  We react to dreams, fantasies and any other occurrence that we think of as “not real”, even after we categorize the experiences as real or not real, after the fact.

In terms of magickal activity, we do not rely on physical movement as much to strengthen our abilities.  A doubting, skeptical and self-defeating personality can go through all of the motions of spell-casting or psychic techniques multiple times without any success or signs of upcoming success.

On the flipside to that scenario, a new apprentice can perform a new operation with a high degree of success while they are in still that faithful “apprentice” position.  It is the conviction, confidence….or simply, innocence….that they will succeed.  They manifest because they don’t “know any better”.

Before physically casting any spells or performing any rituals, put the larger amount of time into exploring the topic on the mental plane, first.  Be very creative.  Come at the subject in as many directions as you can.

To take the example of circle casting, before physically enacting the technique, sit with your work journal or some fresh pieces of paper and freewrite on the concept–Which sensory details are involved in casting a circle of energy?  Which physical sensations do you feel when you cast a circle?  The Divine energy flowing into your crown?  The Earth energy entering your feet chakras, moving up your legs?  Does the energy feel tingly, warm or intense as it exits your hand?  What do you see astrally as the circle is cast?  Does it affect the physical light in the room, maybe appearing as heat waves or distortion to the physical images?  Is there a sound that accompanies the presence of the energy?  How does the presence of the circle affect your physical senses?  How do other people perceive the circle, once it is cast?  How do external energies and entities react to the cast circle?

Take it to another level.  Because you are successful at circle casting, what does this say about your ability to work with energy?  To perform magick, in general?    What are other related thoughts and concepts that come from this–because you can manipulate energy easily, what else does this reflect about other parts of your spiritual beliefs?  What becomes possible, in your personal experience?

Explore these concepts freely in your journaling or musing.  If any limitations come up, ask yourself how you can move past them.  For all of the positive experiences, ask yourself how you can intensify and magnify your experience.  Keep expanding and clearing out your negative limitations.

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A Few Notes About Spirituality

My quick-notes interpretation of being spiritual is experiencing those qualities that are associated with Spirit, Itself.  Being spiritual is to be completely self-identified with Love, Peace, Joy, Stillness and Completeness.

That’s it.

Spirit is that Essence that we sometimes call The Goddess, The Gods, The Creator, Substance…it is beyond activity, because it is complete, encompassing all essence.  This is not an argument for stagnation or non-action on any level.  I am simply pointing out that one thing is not another.

On the level of Spirit, there is the awareness that everything is One, nothing is missing….in the Oneness, there is complete peace.  (My human personality has the image that I am merging with everything that I have ever loved.)  We don’t do anything on the Spiritual level.  Everything is already done.  We become aware of the Oneness that is the Spiritual level….we can think of it as a state of being.

The Physical Level is that of the material world.  It is manifest reality–solid matter and the five basic senses.  The Emotional Level is where the energies of human feelings exists.  The Mental Level is where thoughts live–the realm of the mind.  In this simple, four-part model of experience,  Spirit is that dimension beyond body, emotions and thoughts.  It is Being.  Spirituality is beyond feeling, thinking and physical activity.

Magick is not Spirituality.  Magick is an activity.  It is the changing of manifest reality in accordance with one’s will and desire.  Since manifest reality is a reflection of one’s perception, thoughts and feelings–to change one’s manifest reality is to change what one carries around on a perceptual level….beliefs, convictions and observations.  Magick can lead one to spirituality in the sense that if one is more satisfied in life, with one’s worldly (emotional and mental) manifestations, one’s consciousness can relax into the higher essences of Love and Peace.  Magick is not as direct a pathway as Meditation, but it is a completely valid one, depending on what the practitioner can relate to and concentrate on.  It is a valid way of dealing with our perceptions about reality.

Emotional healing is not Spirituality.  Emotional healing is the clearing out of personal identification with all forms of disempowerment.  It is letting go of the needs to relate to anger, sadness, anxiety, depression, fear….essentially, all negative feelings which are not based on complete immersion in Spirit.  While not as direct as Meditation, it is valid in that it clears out the obstacles to re-identifying with Peace and Love.

On a similar note, there are some Charismatic practices by some local churches that I am aware of.  The misinterpretation that I often hear is that these dynamic forms of worship are very powerful for connecting to God.  While I am aware of some forms of dynamic meditation, it seems that there runs the danger of confusing the adrenaline and dopamine of dancing and clapping, with the bliss and joy that comes from a deep meditation.  The danger with feeling good after physical activity is that we sometimes attribute that to the context in an inaccurate way.  Feeling good in a church building does not mean that we had any spiritual experience which changed our consciousness in any permanent way.

To experience Spirit, do not meditate on the manifest gods–but instead, on Spirit in its completeness.  Pure Spirit.  What is it like to be Spirit?

 

 

 

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How Much Power Does A Witch Really Have?

There are some people who believe that we absolutely create everything in our lives.  There are some people who believe that we have some input, some influence…but that we are subject to external factors–Fate, a Divine Plan, the free will of others.

In some schools of metaphysics, there is this idea that manifest reality is simply a reflection of the thoughts and feelings of the viewer–the one who is living their earthly life.  While the thoughts and feelings might not always be consciously held….but, because they are influenced by what we focus on….we can be said to have complete power to change them.  In this model, we hold absolute power.  The more that we grow into God/dess-identification, the more that we can influence the situations that spring up around us.

If we are growing into becoming living gods, the question that we always come back to is–“How can I influence this scenario?”  How much can I affect each and every situation that comes into my awareness?  How can I deepen my belief that I can transform this event?

If we do not believe that we are able to affect or heal every scenario…if we believe that we are subject to any external forces, at all….then we change the focus in our meditations.  How can we be at peace in the scenario at hand?  How much peace, love and healing am I allowed to bring with me to the event?  If there is a situation that we cannot heal or shape, then we bring as much comfort and as much ease, as we can carry.

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How To Read A Magickal Text

There is a concept that I like to refer to as “Apprentice’s Luck”.  This occurs during the time when the budding Witch, sorcerer or mage is new to the crafts and arts of magick.  They are first discovering books, articles, lessons….maybe just joined a new group or are starting their apprenticeship with a new teacher.

When the magician is in the right state of consciousness, the entire world is full of possibilities….enchantments and power.  So many manifestations are happening, because the sorcerer is in that “honeymoon” stage where they are aware of how much CAN happen, so that it does.  It is only after the glamour wears off–after we intellectualize things–that we start to take in how many rules, laws and regulations are SUPPOSED to be in place….that the glitter fades and we stop manifesting as quickly or as exactly as we had been in the Apprentice stage.

Pay attention to your relationship to the information that you read in magickal books.  When you read about a magickal working–are you imagining the process in third person, as if you are observing someone else’s experience?  Are you visualizing your ability to successfully perform the working in the future, sometime–but, currently have the emotional experience that you are not able to successfully perform the manifestation, right now?

When reading about any and all magickal activities, put yourself completely into the sensory interpretation of the information.  Feel yourself performing every act, in first person, right now.  Every magickal activity is a description of what you can do, at this moment.  As you read the description, put yourself in the imaginary experience of performing it in the real world, feeling confidence or excitement that you always perform the act correctly.  Add to this experience that there are very real world results that manifest–feel them as a manifest reality.  Third, see and feel how the people around you respond to your magickal act manifesting in the world.

It is not about the amount of time you put into practice…or so-called “natural” talent.  It is about the shifts in belief and the deep-rooting of convictions that some things are more real than others.

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